ignoring the fact that piper kerman identifies herself as bisexual so that you can drool about how “not everybody needs labels!!!!” is bisexual erasure, period
the label of “bisexual” needs support and visibility to lift the stigma surrounding bisexuality and to reinforce its legitimacy. don’t take that away from us just because you think it’s more poetic or philosophical or whatever to not have labels
This pressure on bi women that, as soon as they come out to someone, they must provide a detailed dating history with the exact same number of women and men or otherwise they’re “not really bi” and “picked a side” must stop immediately.
Fun little trick I learned in therapy: validation. When someone is upset, don’t try to fix the problem, point out the cause, or tell them it could be worse. Just validate their emotions. Be like, ‘shit yeah man, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m here for you.’ That’s literally all you have to do to make them feel better. Thank you and goodnight.
"But a female dummy didn’t become a mandatory part of frontal crash tests until last year. For all this time, the average American guy stood for us all.
That may have had a substantial impact on women’s auto safety. If airbags are designed for the average male, they will strike most men in the upper chest, creating a cushion for their bodies and heads. Yet small women might hit the airbag chin first, snapping their heads back, potentially leading to serious neck and spinal injuries.
In some cases, according to tests with female mannequins, small women were almost three times as likely as their average male counterparts to be seriously injured or killed. A study of actual crashes by the University of Virginia’s Center for Applied Biomechanics found that women wearing seatbelts were 47 percent more likely to be seriously injured than males in similar accidents.”
I really wish there were a single word that meant “disgusted and speechless but also not at all surprised”
i think ugh sums it up pretty well